A gorgeous, thick, fruit punch in case you were thinking “oooo what’s she drinking”. The pineapple and paw paw was freshly cut and in season, mmmmmmm.
So here I am, sipping my delectably delicious fruit punch, while hearing this buzzzz in my ear.
Was it a bee? No. It was a old school friend trying their damnedest best to convince me of how busy they are.
I’ve realised that Busyness rides high on most people’s list of achievements.
And although your goal was originally to live a less busy life filled with vacations and the such, you feel almost terrible telling someone, (who’s clearly clocking in their hours), that all you did today was this one thing – drinking a fruit punch while chilling with a good friend on the beach…
Why? Because they will then try to one up you with “well, today I did 15 things and saved a dying horse”
Why are you so enamoured with being busy?
When did busyness become the “thing” that you need to prove your worthiness?
How many things are there in your life that you made harder for yourself to do because being busy is better than being still?
When did enjoying your day even when not on vacation become less important than looking busy?
Isn’t it interesting how bus-I-ness (busyness) and business are basically spelt the same way? Because apparently, even the language creators had the expectation that to be doing something as epic as owning or operating a business, your ass goin to be busy. Right?
You may have many things on your to do list, but the way you handle business and life is a state of mind. And “busyness” is a state that you do not have to inhabit.
Now I know that some of you thrive of off busyness and general hustle and bustle – and that is flipping awesome! But for the others who are just saying that they’re super busy too as a way to basically “keep up with the Joneses”, stop that shit now.
I’m calling you out on it.
Since when did being busy trump the quality of your life?
Since when did the need for this random woman or man, or family member, or judgemental geandparent , since when did their perception of your life actually TRUMP the way you live your life in actuality!
Since when did celebrating how amazing your life is becoming turn into something you must hide and lie about?
Ask yourself these hard questions, and give yourself the honest answers.
You deserve this. You deserve everything that you’ve decided you wanted to have. And you don’t have to have a hard shitty slog in order to deserve every ounce of success you’ve attained.
Don’t allow other people’s perceptions of success warp your own.
Know a friend who’s letting business affect her life? Share this with her now! Realised you’ve been allowing yourself to get busy because that’s how you’re “supposed” to be since you’re successful? Fake it till you make it right? *Snort*
Tell me in the comments below if you ever caught yourself doing this!